Majority
of us spend a lot of time
finding a so called right man/right woman. Others really go a certain
distance and effort just to arrived empty handed.
In my opinion we cannot have a right people around us if we don't act like one. We
are the reflection of what we will become.
I think the
major issue in pursuing our goal to
have an ideal relationship mainly our own perception. We set high
standards, (there is no wrong setting a good standard but we tend to
look for perfection.
Our
desire to the best sometimes fail us because we fall short to
recognized our worth and limitations. We are human beings but we are dreaming of perfect We are pre-occupied by the
''Cinderella" story yet we forget that we have the power to create our
own story. We want a happy ending but we collect "trash" along the way.
First
step in attracting a right man is to love our self. We need to know
who we really are, we need to be whole as a person. Be committed to
oneself because the person who is contented with self have and edge in surpassing all the storms. People who have been in bad relationships are usually trying to find something outside themselves to fill up the emptiness, and it will never work. People who are empty attract others who are empty (or who are predators who prey on empty people.
People who are empty are prone to abusive, manipulative, chaotic
types who keep them off their pins or they are prone to withholding
people who punish them when they don't "act
properly. In any event, these types just add to the emptiness. While
they might fill the void for a while, they usually make it quite worse
in the long run.
Stop
hiding your flaws. No one is perfect, so accept the fact that your
partner will not be perfect. But do not compromise your values and
principles because that is your inner self. Be with someone who bring
the best out of you. It is a major plus if the guy you are with inspire
you and know the purpose of being. Confidence and authenticity go a long way in life, love and relationships.
Be appreciative. Expressing our gratitude to someone is a sign of maturity. People love to hear they are appreciated. Avoid comparison, your past relationship is over. Focus in what you have right now and what you intend to be.
You might not believe that the model of a relationship imprinted on your
unconscious decades ago can affect your relationships now, but it does.
The way you relate to yourself and, subsequently, the way you relate
with others, are both strongly influenced by that imprinted standard.
Until you can recognize it and move beyond it, you’re unlikely to find
your highest choices being met.
